Out of all of us i feel our almost 8 year old son is having the hardiest adjustment. His behavior has changed. He is more quick to freak out on someone who is invading his personal space. He also is shutting down more often, he is being more sensitive. Which is ok because i know this is a difficult thing to be going through. if i have to correct him on something he puts his head down and acts like he is ashamed, and it would be over something silly like putting his nerf guns away before bed. I knew there would be some changes in him but I didn't think he would become depressed. So i have been reassuring him that it is ok to cry, it is ok to miss Justin, it's ok to feel sad about it. i keep telling Jason how much i love him and how much he means to me and how important he is to us, all of us. But is it enough?? I have been trying to keep him more involved with things. I tell him hes the new man of the house so he is going to help me do big man stuff. When i tell him that the look on his face to me looks like he is proud to be the "MAN" of the house. He has been putting his laundry away, helping with dishes and the garbage when it is not to heavy. I feel like he enjoys these jobs I give him to do. But i also have been giving him a little bit more freedom too. Like yesterday we went on a walk around the block and he rode his bike. Normally he stays very close while riding his bike. But i told him he could ride ahead but just watch for cars. He did a wonderful job! he would go head and stop at the stop sign and wait then go a head a little more. it was amazing to see my son stand up and peddle as fast as he could then coast down out the hill and hear him say "weeeeeee!!!" he looked so happy. those moments are the ones that I wont forget, the ones that makes me want my husband home so we can enjoy our family together. I took a ton of pictures of all the pics and video too. I sent Justin pictures and video multiple times a day. I can assume they bring my husband joy but pain also.
Yesterday Jason had a great day and today is probably better! He has been doing wonderful in school and was sent home with a good note from his teacher. Then at the end of the day was able to go to his best friends house and play for a few hours. he was so happy when i pick him up! i love seeing him smile. Then to top of his "best day" he was able to tag along with his sisters sleep over tonight at his cousins. I really wanted him to come home with me but i cant be selfish. i did want to spend some one on one time with him but he was so excited to spend the night i couldnt tell him no.
I know if i stay positive the children will stay positive too!
Day 5 was a success!!
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